We can do this.
By Tyler Fahey
“Erin, do you care about me? Do you love me enough to be in this relationship”? Erin and Kassie had been in a relationship for nearly twelve years, since their junior year in high school. They went to the same university and believed they were life-long lovers. Though, they were worried about others’ opinions of their relationship. Kassie asked Erin, “are you worried about what your parents think about our relationship”? Erin responded, “yes, I am. My parents have never been supportive of us; after all, it violates their beliefs”.
Erin and Kassie loved each other, were loyal and would do anything to help each other succeed. They wanted a family together, and they wanted to be with each other for eternity. Kassie, “who cares what your parents think? It’s not their life; it’s not their love, and even though they don’t support the decision, don’t they still love you”? Erin responded, “I honestly don’t know. I have not talked to them in nearly nine weeks because I believe in this relationship; they do not”.
Kassie was convinced this relationship would work, despite traditional marriage taboos and standards. Kassie was very progressive, as was Erin. Erin was gradual but easily influenced by her conservative parents. Erin always felt that they didn’t care about her unconventional values. She didn’t care about religion entirely and didn’t believe that the whole of life is not keen through just God, but through valuing people, not seeing them as objects, but as fellow human beings.
Kassie said, “Erin, I want to be with you for the rest of our lives together. I want to have a family, raise children and see grandchildren, and travel the world. We can do this! Who cares what anybody else thinks”? Erin responded, “You know what? You’re right. If my parents love me enough, they will support me, nurture me, and make me be the best person I can be. Even if that isn’t good enough, they’ll have to deal with it. It’s my life, not theirs”.
Kassie and Erin were both pursuing further schooling at the UC-Berkeley, in northern California. While their parents lived outside of California, both women went to Berkeley because of its progressiveness, beautiful weather, and the fact it was the right school.
Kassie responded to Erin, “It’s your life, Erin, either you want to be with me, or you care what your parents think, or you don’t want to be with me outside of your parent’s belief.” Erin responded, “Will you marry me”?
Author: Tyler Fahey
- Bachelor of Arts (B.A.), International Studies, History, and Political Science | Loras College2018 – 2023 (expected)- Presenter and associate of KLCR (Student Radio) – Columnist, editor, and strategist at the Lorian (Student newspaper) – Loras College Environmental Action Forum (LEAF) – Democratic Party… more
- Associate of Arts (A.A.), Liberal Arts | Kirkwood Community College2015 – 2017- Member of the Phi Theta Kappa – Member of Active Minds – Honors student
- Working for KLCR – Loras Student Run Radio Show
- Bio: Student and Journalist who’s been published in the San Francisco Chronicle, Wisconsin State Journal, Des Moines Register, Cedar Rapids Gazette, Thrive Global, and his blog tylerjfahey.com.
- He’s also focusing music, specifically with MIDI controllers and keyboards. He is also interested in documentaries on politics, history, economics, society and culture, and religion and music.